Urgh, well this has just spoiled my Sunday morning coffee…

I’ve just come across this bright, flowery “powerful” quote on a motivational site on my FB feed – is it really that simple?


Be strong! What is being strong? Wiping your tears away before anyone sees how much you’re suffering? Showing up and not taking any time to look after yourself? putting the feelings of others before your own?

Why do be people think they have permission to tell anyone to “Be strong”

Telling someone to Be Strong is not motivational!

Telling someone to Be Strong is telling them to Shut Up! They don’t want to hear your worries, your pain, how you are suffering, what your needs are .. so ”Be strong”, don’t make others uncomfortable!

Isn’t it about time that quote was changed to “You don’t have to Be strong”?

Tell me how you’re feeling, I’m here to listen, tell me how sad you are, tell me that you’re struggling, tell me that your heart aches, tell me how tired you are from Being bloody strong all the time.

Be Strong and Move on – Pah!!

You know what Happens when you be strong and move on? You push your feelings down inside, each time you be strong they get buried deeper, and a bit deeper until your body starts reacting headaches, bones aching, skin breakouts, hair falling out, tummy issues, your immune system starts to struggle (it does, there’s a sciencey bit behind this).

Can we please just stop with the Be Strong!

Not being strong is the BIGGEST sign of strength to me!!

Crying is strong!!

Talking it out is strong!!

Come on, do better with your “motivational quotes”

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